I lost an old friend last week.
Andy Donkersley was found dead at his home last Wednesday. He was only about 54 – I never knew his real age because he would never tell me!
Andy – aka "Donkersley", “skinny” or “hippy” (see photo) - was born in Huddersfield and took to journalism on leaving school, doing stints on both the Huddersfield Daily Examiner and later the Blackpool Gazette to my knowledge. There may have been more ports of call up north, I don’t know. Andy’s past is somewhat shrouded in mystery.
We first came across each other when he headed south and started work on the Express & Star newspaper in Wolverhampton at around the same time as I did back in 1985. Initially, he wouldn’t talk to me. You see, I had been to college and got a degree. That was bar humbug to Andy. “Bloody college kids! They know nowt. Come over ‘ere with their poncey ways and la de bloody da pieces of paper! School of life, me! That’s the only bloody qualification tha’ needs, ‘appen.”
I drink alcohol, however – and so did Andy. It was the medium destined to bring us together. He began to warm to me when he discovered that I didn’t walk around with a college scarf, my name wasn’t Tarquin or Gerald, that I would always be there at closing time with him, that I loved Monty Python and football, that I mistrusted authority, that I hated brown nosers and that I thought friends were important and work was not.
After that, the only way I can think of describing Andy is that he was akin to a spaniel – totally loyal, defensive of me in public, willing to do anything for me and always up for my company. I grew to feel much the same about him. Andy was a special individual. Special for a number of reasons.
Firstly, Andy was quite simply the best damn journalist I have ever met! He was bloody brilliant and yet completely modest about his abilities. To him it was just what he did. He was regarded as the best by everyone I knew whose opinion was worth listening to.
Secondly, Andy had a fantastic sense of humour! We found the same things funny and both loved to laugh over more than a few beers after work. That was important – careers were not. We would sum it all up by quoting Mr Dainty, the fantastic, if a little perverted, coach of Barnstoneworth United at every available opportunity: “Shorts don’t matter!”
Thirdly, once Andy had your approval, he was an incredibly warm person and he cared about his friends.
Fourthly, and I am going to curtail this list to avoid devaluing any of the above, he was an intelligent bloke who had rock solid values and beliefs, all of them greatly relished by me and those who knew him.
Andy left the Express & Star in 2006 after a sustained campaign of abuse and bullying by mini-managers who knew and still know absolutely nothing about either journalism or people and he became more ill, spending the last two years of his life in a self-imposed isolation. Myself and many others lost contact with him, despite repeated attempts to look after him – Andy had just had enough. We, I am not ashamed to say, gave up because, when someone just wants to be left alone, they should be. You can't do anything about it anyway, no matter how hard you try.
I make no denials that I was angry about Andy's surrender. It was such a waste and was hurtful to those who loved him. Then, when the inevitable happened, all the anger drained away and I just wanted to remember the guy I knew.
It was such a sad end for such a truly lovely man. We will all be gathering in the coming weeks for his funeral and we are going to remember all those good times, all the times he made us laugh, the times he astounded people with his work, the anecdotes, the scrapes, the fun.
Goodbye, Andy old mate. I am so glad I knew you. We will all miss the real Andy Donkersley very much.
17 comments:
Sorry about the loss of your friend. It's always a sad day when you lose a bud you can laugh with.
Reg,
Truly sorry to hear about your loss. It's devastating to lose a close friend but that's a lovely tribute to him.
Thoughts are with you mate,
Love Big Ears.
As Andy was a big Bob Dylan fan and I think this fits.
I shall be released
They say ev'rything can be replaced,
Yet ev'ry distance is not near.
So I remember ev'ry face
Of ev'ry man who put me here.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.
They say ev'ry man needs protection,
They say ev'ry man must fall.
Yet I swear I see my reflection
Some place so high above this wall.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.
Standing next to me in this lonely crowd,
Is a man who swears he's not to blame.
All day long I hear him shout so loud,
Crying out that he was framed.
I see my light come shining
From the west unto the east.
Any day now, any day now,
I shall be released.
Words and Music by Bob Dylan
1967,1976 Dwarf Music
The Farmer
Cheers Andy. Gods speed.
The bastards have got another one then!
Good to read this Reg. I worked with Andy briefly in the 1980s and I wholeheartedly agree with your assessment of his reporting abilities - definitely one of the very best.
I was very sad to hear of Andy's death. I worked closely with him for about three years on the Express & Star from 93-96. I have only fond memories of a gentle warrior.
RIP.
Martin McGlown
I'd say you've just about got Andy bang on. I worked with him for many years at the E&S and he was a reporter who was always worth cultivating, always had a friendly word and an appealingly down-to-earth take on life. He even treated subs' queries in a friendly, undefensive way!
You always did it your own way and that's how you will be remembered by me.
Your warmth and love were felt far and wide by those who truly knew you.
Thank you Donk.
Thanks too for the crafty pints in Moonies the not so crafty pints in the Firkin and the Tap.
When you gave me back me kaleidescope I knew you were saying goodye.
P
I've been told about Andy's death several times over the last few days, but it's never seemed real until now.
A top class reporter, dedicated Huddersfield fan, decent human being, gentle soul, a good mate.
Andy was without doubt one of the nicest people I've ever met. When I first started out in journalism at a certain Dudley office he took me under his wing with the words: 'Any friend of Reg's is a friend of mine. So let's go to the pub.'
When there's no space any more on newspapers for first rate reporters like Andy Donkersley you know the game is well and truly up.
But this isn't the time or place to write an obit for the Wolverhampton Express & Star. In any case it doesn't deserve it.
I knew Andy in passing as an infrequent visitor to the Crown Court from the districts.
At first glance you'd be forgiven for thinking he was a bit of an aloof oddball.
Try a bit harder and you'd find someone who was highly professional, sharp, effortlessly accurate and with impeccable judge of character. He was also very helpful. You would learn a lot from Andy if you were prepared to listen. And if rated you enough to tell you.
The wall of shame he maintained in the Crown Court press room of misprints, howlers and basic errors that had made the newspaper is a testament to his professionalism as the professionalism of his newspaper sank.
But the demise of journalism is another matter.
Let's just celebrate a truly first rate individual.
Just googled, Andy, at least ten entries all great and saying what we all knew,I do feel he would have said
Google, tinernet,
Bah humbug modern rubbish
The funeral is at 2:30pm at Telford crem 2:30 pm on Friday 21st November followed by a drink at Jaspers in Shifnal.
Andy became close friends with my wife Maria and I when he joined the Huddersfield Daily Examiner. It was his first job in journalism and I was an old-stager of 35. He admired my record collection (even though it contained no Dylan) and my long denim overcoat, which eventually became his. He took us out to dinner to celebrate his 21st (just the three of us) and actually wore a tie. He spent our 10th wedding anniversary with us (just the three of us) and we played records all night. After our 41st wedding anniversary this month, Maria recalled that night and talked of Andy. We found the photographs; Andy with his long hair and straggly beard and long scarf. We should get in touch. Then Phil Farmer got in touch instead and we learned Andy had died.
I went to Andy's funeral and caught up with him at last. It was wonderful to see so many there and to hear of the impact and lasting friendships he had made. In those early days, he was funny, loyal, warm and so honest it hurt. It was good to know he hadn't changed. He was genuinely one of the good guys. We have never forgotten Andy and we never will.
Such a great turnout and appropriate send off for my old mate. We've been pals since we met in 1967 and I shall miss him dearly. I've recorded some memories here; http://richtblag.blogspot.com/
Read and keep his memory alive.
Richie 'Tetley'
I can't believe this, I was just looking for something else on the internet and came across this news. I am so very sorry to read this and like the others here would like to add my heartfelt sympathy for what has happened. I remember being an Express & Star trainee and shadowing Andy at crown court and not only learning a great deal from him but also sharing lots of laughs - what a lovely bloke he was to me, really generous with his time and his advice. I am so very sorry to read that he wanted to be left alone and sorry that I didn't know about his passing or his funeral, I would have been there like a shot. x
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